Posted @ 3:30 pm June 6th, 2008
By Jason Wilburn
What if you could wake up tomorrow morning and never have uncontrollable cravings for sugar-filled food and drink again? What if you could wake up with the same craving for ribs, mashed potatoes and buttered bread at an all time low? Most of us cannot replace our deep hunger for the tasty foods we're accustomed to eating with the confident and powerful ability to eat what we want, when we want knowing that we can do so and still reach our ideal weight. You won't believe it when I say it, but if you are willing to take small, simple and easy steps to regain that confidence and power in your freedom to choose, you will find no more cravings, no more out-of-control urges to eat and eat... and eat until the plates are clean. The word "diet" has such a negative connotation implying failure that when we hear that word our gut clenches. So maybe we should all stop dieting and start "adjusting".
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There are two things that have nothing to do with dieting and weight loss activities on the behavioral plane, but that are driving how we either succeed or fail at implementing any of the diet programs we attempt by undermining our ability to control our thoughts and feelings about the way we see ourselves. Can you go look in the mirror (if you're obviously overweight) and call yourself names like "Fatso!" and "Tub O'Lard!" and then laugh about it? It doesn't make sense to do this if you listen to the philosophy that only good words and good vibes can heal and help you. Most of us would never think of doing this out loud, but this is exactly what we say to ourselves in our minds; we perpetuate our helplessness in finally losing the weight we've always wanted to lose. In fact, I remember that when I was at my heaviest, so were my private insults of my body and myself at their most brutal. Isn't it possible that the more harsh our thoughts of ourselves, the more weight we seem to gain and hold on to?
What exactly are these two, non-behavioral factors that undermine our ability to finally lose that weight? First: if we can't accept who we are right now, we will never be able to visualize or conceive of our ideal body image. Being able to clearly imagine our ideal body with our face on that body--NOT a celebrity or a neighbors face--is One Secret Missing Ingredient. How many diet programs have you tried that start with your ideal body in mind?
The Second Secret Missing Ingredient is hunger. Every nutritionist on the planet may tell you that it is unhealthy to ever feel hunger in your belly. When we feel hungry, our mind tells us, "EAT SOMETHING FAST! QUICK, YOU CAN'T BE HUNGRY, THINK OF ALL THOSE PEOPLE STARVING OUT THERE--EAT, EAT, EAT!" And so we stop at the nearest drive thru or take out and stuff something down so we don't feel any guilt about being hungry in a country where food is available everywhere we turn. Of course, guilt is a major determining factor in what stops you mentally and emotionally from losing the weight you have tried and failed to lose for years. Even more powerful is the thought of "not going hungry". This is such an ingrained belief system in the auto-conscience of most of us (due to hearing horror stories about the depression or children around the world unable to eat a meal or worse, we went hungry as children) that we can't imagine leaving a bunch of available food on our plate.
Who are we to turn down our stomach? I ask you, in a country that has given us the power of many choices, who are we not to exercise that choice from a logical and unemotional perspective? Could it be possible that it's--dare I even say the words--"okay" for you to turn food down even when you feel your stomach yelling obscenities at you? This is exactly what we must do to lose unwanted fat. If you are to ever truly command your body and the weight it carries around, you will have to handle this underlying guilty conscience that's been bred into your mental process of what it means to be grateful for what you have (on your plate).
Instead, isn't being grateful more about appreciating our choices, our freedoms, our bodies in a way that would compel us to become our best? This is inclusive of looking our best, not for others to approve of, but for us to approve of. A little hunger in your belly means you're not full of food. That can't always be a bad thing. T
There are many other obstacles in our way on this journey to lose the weight we've always wanted to lose, such as Impatience and Fitness (see "6 Obstacles").
After trying every diet available to me over the 23 years I was struggling to get thin, the two most important things were left out time and time again: guilt about hunger and my own reachable image of my ideal body.
There never seems to be a shortage of quick and fast diet plans that have you losing crazy amounts of fat in no time at all. But do we really buy it? Can you really believe that it's possible to shed 30 pounds in 30 days and not gain it right back? No, we don't buy it. Yes, we're paying for it, but we don't "buy it". Have you ever kept the weight off permanently when you do those types of diet plans? I haven't. It ultimately led me right back to where I started.
Reaching your ideal weight, losing fat and transforming your body, no matter how overweight you are, is NOT a quick and fast process, period. But, once you can fully accept that, you will be well on your way to making the small adjustments today that will lead to bigger adjustments tomorrow and finally... will lead you to your ideal weight. Losing unwanted fat is simple. It can be very easy if you do it the right way. But, if you start off thinking it will only take two weeks to drop 100 lbs? Well...
Want to try a radical new approach? Start by addressing yourself as a "fat pig" while looking at yourself in the mirror and say it until you can laugh about it. Then, address and let go of the idea that you are a "bad person" if you don't eat everything that gets offered to you (or that you put on your plate). You're not a bad person, you have an ideal body inside of you right now. All you have to do is see it and that will inform your actions which will lead you directly to the results you want, becoming that ideal body.
When we set a goal that's easy to reach, we are a hundred times more likely to set and reach another goal. When it comes to making choices about what you're going to put in your body, set goals for yourself that you know you can reach. This is the key (so I'll repeat it), set goals you absolutely KNOW you can reach. And once you do, notch it up, turn up the heat a little, challenge yourself just a bit and watch how easy it is for you to hit the next mark... and the next. This is the common denominator of all diets and diet programs as well as any Non-Diet programs: simple, easy, small steps.
Posted @ 1:15 pm June 18th, 2008
1. Past Failures. After you've been on six, seven or twenty different "diets" and after none of them has facilitated your desire to not only get thin, but stay thin, the idea of going on another "diet" seems like too much. This cycle of dieting, losing weight, feeling good, getting uncomfortable feeling so good and returning to a food-fest that lands you back in the "diet" seat is a real killer going forward. So, when you see a new diet plan that you want to try you start off by silently reminding yourself of how many times you've failed in the past and that sets you up to fail again. Is it the diets or is it you?
2. Addicted to Diets. As the health, fitness and beauty industry has swelled beyond all expected proportions, what effects has this had on our ability really focus on what will work for us? The effects are numerous, but the most potent ones, in my opinion, the following: The diet and health information floodgates have blown wide open and when you search for that information or buy books that offer that information, it's truly like going out surfing for the first time and trying to ride a thirty foot wave. How successful will you be not crashing and scrapping for the relief of breath? Not very successful. So, is your job to gobble up all the information that you can find on dieting and getting healthy? Or is your job to recognize, using your own instincts, what information is going to most help you accomplish your goals. I've written a radical new weight loss book called "Lose The Diet! Lose The Fat!" because I had to find my own way to get there while borrowing little bits from the many books, articles and "diet plans" I had tried in the past. I wrote this 36 page book to accomplish one main goal: make the information simple and easy, only Three Adjustments to make and that's it. Why was that important to offer? Well, look around at the diet books available right now. How many people need a 200-page in-depth analysis of every food item, craving symptom and recipe on the planet in order to just drop the fat? I just don't get that. It's NOT complicated. Eat less of everything (especially the sugar-filled foods) for an extended period of time and you will burn the fat off, period. Simple. Pretty easy if you do it in very reasonable steps. For more on the steps, get the eBook here.
3. Making Drastic Changes. Fitness also falls in this category and you'll see why in a moment. This is my favorite obstacle to dieting because it was always my favorite thing to do when I started a new diet. I'm a "Hard Core" type of personality. To identify yourself with your specific type, go here. When I learned about a new way to burn fat, I was all over it. I know lots of people who do the same thing. Here's what happens, you read a book, an article, see a program for weight loss on television, then you decide you are going to do ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING they tell you to do, right from day one! Really? Is this the best way to make changes for the long term? We usually only make these kinds of drastic changes if we're forced, through trauma, loss or devastation, but when we're dieting? Why would any of us suddenly attempt to drop ALL sugar from our diet, cut the types of foods we're eating, how much we're eating and then on top of it, start trying to be a runner and gym rat when we usually cringe at the thought? This is trying to do it all at once and it never, never works. Simple and easy steps are the key.
4. Fantasy Goals. This is next because it is directly related to #3 Making Drastic Changes. The only reason we attempt to make such drastic changes is because we envision "diet goals" for ourselves that are so far out there, so unreasonable our only choice is to begin an exercise program, cut back on all the food we like and drop sugar all at once. So, rather than beat ourselves up for failing at doing everything from the beginning (which we'll never stick to) we can start by looking at the goals we're envisioning. Are we envisioning that we'll be forty pounds lighter in four weeks? Or can we accept that it might take us more like six months of making one small adjustment in our food consumption to drop that forty pounds in a sustainable way? See the difference? When you make a small adjustment, you're doing what you KNOW you will accomplish and there's no overnight "drastic changes" to make, so for the first time, success will be yours. You start there and do nothing else until you've successfully maintained that adjustment for a healthy amount of time. For more on the 3 adjustments, go here.
5. Temptation. You may assume that temptation means food. There is nothing but very tempting food to eat all around us, every five feet. That's nothing to write about, we all know that and I have my favorite cookies and coconut gellato like everyone else! The temptation I'm referring to is the desire to jump off of one weight loss track and onto another every month or two. THAT is the real temptation. As mentioned in Addicted to Diets, there's no shortage of information flying at us about all the "quick, fast and 'supplemental' ways to burn fat by putting some drops on your tongue". Or we get whiplash turning our heads at every new "magic" food plan, where someone delivers food to you that is somehow more health conscious than what you can get on your own right down the street (and they charge you an arm and a leg for it). Temptations every where you look to get off of something that's beginning to work for you and get on something that won't. Which leads us right to #6...
6. Impatience. I've saved the most powerful obstacle for last. Experience will tell us that the NUMBER ONE REASON that DIETS DON'T WORK is because we lose our patience with them. This is the hard truth, all diets will work for you if you do not lose your patience. Now, that's easy to say, very difficult to do, isn't it? Today we all want something fast, right now, show me the results today! Sorry. I refuse to misguide and mislead my readers by lying to you and claiming that there is a fast (and healthy) way to do what most diets today claim you can do: lose an extraordinary amount of weight in no time at all and sustain it. There is no way. Go ahead and jump on any one of those offers and after you've been there, come back, buy my eBook "The Most Simple Diet Ever!". We may take our time losing the weight, but you will lose it and tone your body forever.
If we get right down to it, we all know by now, without looking at any more information on dieting, how to burn fat, don't we? It's common sense by now. If you really wanted to burn a ton of fat fairly quickly and at the same time defy most of the obstacles discussed here, you can do what we know would work: Eat nothing but (raw and organic) fruit and vegetables, drink only highly purified,
alkaline, ionized water and let yourself indulge in an organic boneless, skinless chicken breast four times a week (you could alternate with wild-caught salmon or fish and leave out any butter and sugar-filled condiments and there's no doubt whatsoever that within six months no one would recognize you. Now, how many of us can do that right off the bat? Probably none of us. The key is to work backwards. What simple and easy to accomplish adjustment in that direction could you make today. Start very, very small. "The MOST SIMPLE Diet Ever!
The Simplest and Easiest Way To Reach Your Ideal Weight Ever"
claims you can lose all the fat you want without suffering, starving or even going on a"Diet".
We Give 20% of ALL gross proceeds to organizations that FEED Hungry Children
AND Pre-Order the Body Toning eBook
Actual Results
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